I was confronted today by one of my clients when she saw my wedding ring. “You’re married?! I didn’t think you were old enough to be married!” Which I responded with. “Yes, I have a one year old, as well.” She then proceeded to lecture me on how I was in my 20’s and my 20’s needed to be about me… going out, drinking, and “having fun”. That now, I’m “tied down”, with a baby and have no time to “grow into my own skin.” and that she “feels for me”. These are her actual words.. At first I just sat there… What do you say to that? I’m at work.. and she’s a client, so “mind your own business” just doesn’t seem appropriate… And this isn’t the first time I’ve heard anything like this.. So let me just clear my own air here…
First off, I’ve never been big on the party scene.. sure, I enjoy going out with my close friends, dancing and having a couple drinks.. but the thought of going out every weekend.. it makes me tired just thinking about it LOL. I’ve been drunk about a handful of times and I did NOT enjoy the next morning, not even slightly. So why would I go out and get sh-wasted if I don’t like being drunk, or hungover? That makes no sense to me. Call me uptight. Call me boring or no fun, I don’t care. Secondly, I don’t like dating. Or should I say, dating around? multiple people.. hanging out.. or whatever you want to call it.. Not my style. And thirdly, I’ve always wanted to be a mother. Always. And I think being a young mom is a blast!
It just so happened that I found the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with at the age of 19. YOU may not agree with that. You may think that is too young. And that’s ok. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. But you don’t see me going around judging people who have chosen different paths than I have, do you? I could have easily turned it around on her and lectured her about being in her 30’s not married, or having a boyfriend, or not having the life I have.. but I didn’t. because that is in fact, none of my damn business. She is a successful business woman who drives around in a new Range Rover. Decked out in all the nice bling. And that’s great. That is the life she wants to live! I have many friends who are party animals… the definition of “life of the party”. I have single friends. And I only have a couple friends with children. That is THEIR choice. And I would never pressure someone to get married and have babies (except maybe Courtney, but she doesn’t count 😉 ) … I have chosen my life and where I want it to go. I have chosen to spend my life with my husband and we chose to bring another life in this world.. that was no accident. She was no accident. (Not that there is anything wrong with surprise babies!)
I guess my point is… Do not judge anyone for making different choices in their life than you would. It takes all different kinds of people to make the world go round. My life is not perfect. And I’m not going to make the same choices in my life as you will in yours. And that is just fine.